What’s your child’s currency?

People or therapists, or parental ‘specialists’ talk about that  ‘currency’ of a child. I guess they mean whats the most important thing to your child that they would hate to loose.

Why do they ask this question? Because they think the currency is what we can use to bargain with our kids. If kids don’t do what we want / need them to do, then they say you can take away what the kid loves best, and return it as a reward for great behaviour.

If you child refuses to do chores, no Xbox until they are done. No biscuits after dinner if they don’t walk the dog?

If she won’t do her homework, refuse the sleep-over until they have finished all the homework to an expected level.

I’m not sure that it’s the right way to go. I’m not sure it’s the wrong one. I am very confused about it.
I have two kids, and only one has a currency and the other doesn’t. If they don’t have currency, then you have to work another way.

I’m at home all day and the one thing my kids want, is time with me – even though I am home all day – weird and wonderful all at the same time.

I know parents that do have kids with currency, and don’t use it, and the kids are not exactly what you’d call ‘in control’. So I guess it does work in some instances.

It’s a debate that goes on, and I’m not sure what I like or dislike about it, but I’m willing to keep my mind open and consider all options.

 

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