“Where Has My Little Girl Gone?” How to Protect Your Daughter From Growing Up Too Soon – by Tanith Carey.
Whilst reading this book it was a relief to know that certain aspects happening in my home happened all around the world, in everybody else’s home. I found the short paragraphs easy to read, and the useful advice a ‘quick reference’ style very useful. In particular chapters I think that the author has covered a large variety of current problems, particularly the sexting and Facebook issues.
Of particular interest was the chapter on fathers and the need for them to be involved. Not only did I recognise certain behaviours of my own father, but behaviours of other fathers I’d seen in our social group. It was interesting to see how self esteem would be affected by the involvement, or lack of involvement, of a father, and scenes from my childhood suddenly made sense.
But what I found very interesting was the ability for me to check against topic areas, and try to judge whether I have personally missed out in any areas.
I’m glad to see I have not, (in my opinion), and many of the items Tanith brings up, or the solutions that Tanith discusses, are currently ones I employ in my own home, with my own children. It is reassuring to know that somebody else believes in the way that I believe children should be brought up.
The book is easy to read. The chapters are well defined and the paragraphs or short and concise. All of the current issues experienced by children are discussed in a friendly and positive manner.
Of interest, is that she addresses particularly technological advances exposure to TV, mobile phones, and other such mediums. These are particularly important given the age in which we are living. It is all too easy to ignore these advances, in order to not be bothered by the difficulties they bring into family life. It is also too easy to allow technology to be a babysitter, in order to allow us to get on with general day to day things like washing up, cleaning houses and answering emails.
For those of us struggling with the tweens, and particularly the female version of ourselves, this is a book recommended to all parents. I’d advise you to read it before they turn 7, and try to implement a few of the ideas as soon as possible. It’s likely this book will be well thumbed by the time they turn 13!
Well done Tanith, on writing a book we can all call upon.