My first pregnancy was not all that first pregnancies are meant to be.
Basically, I struggled a lot.
Not because I was pregnant, or because I was ill, or too big, or any of the normal complaints.
Simply because I was pregnant.
You see….. one of my friends had been trying desperately to get pregnant for at least 2 years and still hadn’t managed to fall pregnant.
I, on the other hand, had fallen pregnant in a blink, and I felt terribly guilty. I really felt terribly guilty, and sorry for her, and spent most of my pregnancy trying to pretend that my pregnancy didn’t exist.
Whenever I met up with her I didn’t want to discuss the pregnancy, and look like I was boasting. I was also very small, so the ‘bump’ did not show much.
Looking back, I can’t change the way things were, but I’m sorry I didn’t really ‘bond with the bump’. Not that I am not bonded to the gorgeous child that came out, but what I should have had the opportunity to do was enjoy my pregnancy, love being pregnant, be happy telling all my friends, and revel in the joy of being able to pro-create.
According to Marion Stoppard, bonding with your bump is one of the most important things you can do. The time you have whilst you bump grows, is the time nature provides you with to get used to the idea that your life is about to change in immeasurable ways.
Trust me if you have a child already, you know what I am talking about, and if you don’t have a child yet, you will know pretty soon!
I’m not a ‘gushy’ mum, who goes all ‘gaga’ about the miracle of birth, and the joy of pregnancy and giving life or having a life created inside you etc, but what I do realise is that it is pretty awesome the I can create another being, (obviously with some male help) and incubate it, inside me.
Now that I’ve had two, and desperately want a third, I realise how amazing it is that I could probably conceive a third pretty easily, and do the whole process over again. And this time I would revel in the amazing thing it is having a ‘bump’. It’d probably be my last opportunity to do that, so I think I’d go a little over the top, and really enjoy the experience.
So, if you do have a bump, take the time out each day to enjoy the ‘bump’. Spend time and energy in the bonding, and just enjoy the moments as they come. It’s a short lived nine months (thank goodness!) and it’ll just come a few times in your life.
Bond, baby, bond!