*** Warning – strong one sided personal opinions ***
Are you like me and HATE how technology has come between you and your partner (and children)? How it’s inveigled itself into your conversation ( or now lack of it). How they check their screens all the time, dive on it when it buzzes. Run upstairs when it beeps – enough to just about break a leg.
According to The Glendon Association we spend “about nine and a half hours a day listening to music, emailing, texting, instant messaging, Facebooking, Twittering, surfing” and almost anything you can think of besides really communicating. The group cites the constant stimulation as a reason why we push out, “deep intimacy,” for an alternate reality.
That would explain why my OH would rather tap his screen for 2 hours playing a game, than talk to me. Whilst I think I may be stimulating, obviously I’m not constantly and instantly stimulating ( a lot to live up to I recon) and the mobile game is.
I could maybe get him to talk to me , and every time he actually looked at me and engaged in conversation, I could hand him a imaginary ‘bonus’ – like the games do. He could work towards level 2 – where he got some harder task to accomplish! And the ultimate level 30000000000 – Iwould designate tap zones on my body ( I thought I had), and dole out fictitious rewards to him as he taps them. “Oh no honey, you don’t actually GET sex, you just enjoy pretending you may. — Keep tapping!”
It may just be me, ( I seriously doubt that), but I’d rather talk to a stranger than stare at my phone screen waiting for a text message or scrolling through my email, and while I understand it is much easier to stare blankly at a screen than to get up the courage to break out of the tangled Web, and actually form a real life bond with a person in the flesh, I have to believe that your life is enriched by doing the latter.
When you are talking to your Other Half (OH) and they are staring at a screen whilst you talk – what does that say?
- I can’t be bothered to look at you and hear you
- My screen has more interesting stuff on it
- I really am just getting 30 % of what you say, but that’s good enough for me. Seeing as just about every male OH will tell you they can’t multi-task, you must assume the same goes for listening to someone whilst negotiating a screen.
Although we brag about how globally interconnected we are through technology, if we live our life through technology then I believe we truly are alone.
Many people you may never actually meet – could you really call them friends????? Maybe I can coin a new word for this relationship called ‘friendology’. Not real relationships with real people, rather a perceived relationship that comes out of a use of technology base.
Reach out to the people around you, they might be longing for that deep, personal connection rather than a web-based one. If you do that, perhaps you’ll use technology to enrich peoples lives, rather than become your only life.
I’m not the only one that thinks this ….